How to handle being upset with your spouse

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Let them know you are upset and need space – This is so important. You need to let the person know that you are upset and need space. Don’t just storm off without saying anything or start treating them badly and expect them to know something is going on. 

Take a breather – You need to have time to calm down. When you’re upset, your emotions can be out of control. You need to take time to relax so you can eventually speak rationally. 

Write it out if you need to or type it on the computer and then delete it – I find it helpful at times to type it out and then delete it. This allows me to get my irrational and emotional feelings out and calm down in the meantime. 

Once you have calmed down, talk out of love – When you have had a chance to calm down and you feel that you’re ready to talk about it, let the person know. 

Explain what upset you – What I first do is explain what it was that upset me in the first place and why it upset me. Try your hardest not to blame the other person but explain why you felt hurt. 

Explain what could have been done better – This is crucial. You need to explain to the person how things could have gone better. Let this be a learning experience. You may learn something from them as well. 

Try to let it go and move on – This is HARD. You need to try to move on regardless of the other person. If you hold onto the anger, it’s going to affect you more than the other person. 

Fights, disagreements, arguments and so on aren’t fun but are inevitable. You need to find a way to handle them. You need to find a way to learn from them. You need to find a way to move on from them. 

I hope these tips help you 


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