Liking your husband through the hard times with your kids
I don’t think that I have slept well in over a year. My almost 10 month old hasn’t slept through the night yet. My 3 year old used to sleep well but is now almost 2 weeks into waking up 1-3 times at night screaming for us to come in his room.
I don’t function well with little sleep. I get irritated and angry and frustrated and short tempered. It’s just not a good thing. Thankfully, it doesn’t affect my husband too much.
I struggle to like my husband in the midst of this time. I love him but all my negative feelings from frustration get thrown onto him.
I can’t get angry with my baby for getting another cold and not sleeping well. I can’t get angry with my toddler for developing a fear and not being able to communicate about it or reason through it.
What I can do and what I do do is get angry at my husband. Get short tempered with my husband. Get annoyed and frustrated at my husband.
The one person who is going through the same thing as me is now dealing with a wife who is upset with him for nothing.
So, I decided to make a change. I’m going to love and like my husband even more through the difficult times of my kids. Why add one more negative thing to the tantrums and no sleep? I’m making a stand against it.
I will hug my husband.
I will tell him I love him.
I will give him a kiss.
I will compliment him on how well he is handling this season of our kids.
I will thank him for loving me through this time.
I will make time to enjoy him in the small amounts of time that our toddler is not acting out and both kids are asleep.
I will make these changes because I can change me.
I can’t change our circumstances but I can change how I react to them.
I choose to change my attitude.