My toddler will be 3 this week! I can’t get over how fast he is growing. We have been struggling a lot with the “terrible twos” for months now. We have been dealing with screaming, some hitting, spitting, crying, tantrums, telling us “no” and so on. We have tried the following…
1. Time out with mommy – results is screaming and hitting and doesn’t help.
2. Time out with daddy – results in screaming until he starts coughing and may get sick.
3. Spanking – results in him hitting or laughing and thinking it’s a game
4. Ignoring the behavior – results in the fit continuing or getting worse. It has worked here and there though.
5. Quiet time – does nothing.
I have been told time and time again that this is normal, it’s a stage, it will pass. That is a slight comfort, but doesn’t make me feel better. I feel like I’m his mom, I should be able to help him when he is angry and frustrated. I should be able to teach him that he needs to do things and prevent tantrums. I’ve put so much pressure on myself to prevent my 2 year old from being a 2 year old. I have cried over these tantrums. I’ve called the pediatrician asking if he needs to see a psychologist (she laughed and said he is a normal 2 year old). I’ve read books and listened to YouTube channels. I’ve done everything I can to help him.
Today, we were on our way to church and he said he didn’t want to go, so my husband redirected the conversation. He ended up going to class and had a great time with no melt downs. On the way home from lunch today, I explained that he would need a nap when we got home and he got upset and said he didn’t want to. I kept redirecting the conversation and we ended up playing “can you find…” the whole way home. He still didn’t want to nap but I made a game of racing him to bed. He went with no issues and took a nice nap.
Today was a WIN!! Tomorrow may be different but I will handle that when it comes. I will keep trying new things to help me boy through this stage and every stage he goes through.
If you’re like me and in the middle of the tantrum stage or any other stage that’s hard, hang on! You got this. You will have a win and then hopefully another and another. Listen to your gut and pray for the strength to get through it. We got this!